I’m so glad you’re here!

Hi! I’m Victoria, and my mission is to help you find fun, stress-free, and yet effective activities to teach and connect with your toddler.

Toddler mom life can be happy and frustrating and overwhelming and wonderful all at the same time. All our friends with older kids have told us that someday we will miss these days when our child ALWAYS wants to be with us. We know that, and yet our days are filled to the brim with seemingly endless tasks and to-do lists.

When I took time off from my practice as a developmental and behavioral pediatrician to become a stay-at-home mom for my toddler, I realized that we do feel pressure and uncertainty. What should I be teaching my toddler? Am I doing enough? 

That’s why I started this blog. Together, we will bring out the best in your child – without the stress and overwhelm, and while taking care of YOU too. With an understanding of child development, you’ll know what to focus on and what matters most. 



Toddler Development

Many of our frustrations and worries can come from a misunderstanding of what is normal for a toddler’s developmental level. I believe that understanding normal toddler development will help us create a happy home life. 

Positive Discipline

Behavior and tantrums are among the biggest concerns of the toddler years. I’ve found that the principles of positive parenting are the best ways to deal with these. We’ll be on our way to helping our kids be effective and capable.

Learning Through Play

I will have suggestions for age-appropriate activities that are fun and will help your toddler learn. I also believe that the best activities are the simplest, and that learning should not be stressful for either mommy or child.


To be able to do all these, we need to take care of ourselves too. One of the best ways we can care for our kids and families is to make sure that we are healthy in every aspect.



So many things to do, and there are only so many hours in a day! We need to be efficient about how we will manage our time, so we can focus on what truly matters.

Family Life

We are not the only ones influencing how our kids develop, but there are also multiple influences from other family members. 

If you have a child who is 1-2 years old, you’re in the right place. Welcome to our shared journey towards effective, empowered and enjoyable parenting!


Hi! I’m Victoria from effectivemommy.com

I’m mom to an amazing toddler and wife to a wonderful man.

I studied psychology in college, then went on to become a doctor. I followed my passion of specializing in pediatrics, then doing further training in developmental and behavioral pediatrics. To better help my patients, I became a certified positive discipline parent coach. I also teach medical students and future pediatricians about child development and behavior. 

My priorities changed when I had my baby. I took an extended leave from seeing patients. It was wonderful and enjoyable, and yet there were stressful and overwhelming times too. It seems that mom life had gotten so complicated, with all that the internet, social media, and others are telling us.

Because of this, I felt called to go back to helping moms, just as I did when I was seeing patients full time. It is now my mission to help moms navigate through the toddler years. I’ll call on my training in developmental and behavioral pediatrics and in psychology, and my own experiences as a work-from-home mom.

I’m Asian too.  So if the major roles in your life include not just mom, wife, and career –  if roles like daughter, sister, daughter in law, niece, and cousin play a major part of what you need to juggle in your daily life – I totally get you.


photo of Dr Victoria from Effective Mommy

You can do this, and you are enough.

Effective. NOT perfect. NOT I’ve-got-this-all-figured-out. Effective means that we don’t waste time and effort stressing over things that don’t matter. It means we focus on what will mean the most for our kids’ and our family’s future, while appreciating the everyday moments. 

I hope that Effective Mommy gives you the tools to become the mom that you want to be. I’m in the trenches with you. Together, we’ll figure this out.

Thank you for visiting, effective mommy! 



Toddler Mom

Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrician

Certified Positive Discipline Parent Coach

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